Why would a book about having difficult conversations be a best seller?
After decades of Jerry Springer and reality television, it is clear that people don't know how to disagree without drama, name calling, or harboring hatred.
From the shooting of Arizona House Representatives to bullied students turning violent to political protests turning into violent mobs, it is evident that there is a conversation crisis in this nation.
Why are so many people turning violent? One reason is people have not learned how to release the pressure valve before it explodes.
So many people keep emotions bottled up. Small fires unchecked turn into blazing infernos which can't be recalled once unleashed.
Forget the other person for a minute, they are important and we'll get to them later, but focus on yourself for a minute.
Think about that person who annoys. Is it your boss, coworker, spouse, child, friend or parent? Now ask yourself why haven't you had that conversation.
- Do you tell yourself its no big deal...yet talk about it about with other people?
- Do you tell yourself you are going to "rise above it"...yet never do because it always weighs you down?
- Do you find it exhausting to even think about where to begin because it has bothered you for so long?
- Do you find yourself wishing you could avoid that person...even though you know you need them?
I see you nodding your head yes. We've all been there. Myself included.
Now check in with your body. How do you feel when you think about that situation, the answers to those questions, or the situation?
I would imagine you feel weighed down and tired. Aren't you tired of feeling that way? Aren't you tired of sweeping it under the rug?
If you don't learn how to have and deliver that conversation in a productive way, you'll explode at the oddest moment over the smallest thing. Maybe you've tried talking to them before, did represent yourself as best as you could?
The authors of Crucial Conversations ( Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillian and Al Switzler) actually say that when the stakes are the highest we tend to act the worst.
In order to regain your energy and freedom, you need to have a conversation.
And not just any conversation, a conversation that allows you to be the mature, skilled, and respectful person you are.
Now let's turn your attention to the other person. Do they even know they are annoying you, causing you stress or acting in a way that is unproductive?
We are relationship with people because we get to help each other grow. Did you ever think that your caring, well planned, drama free feedback could the crucial turning point in that person's development?
You owe it to yourself and the other person to be BRAVE enough to have a difficult conversation.
But you don't have to do it alone.
Books like Crucial Conversations are chocked full of great tips. I highlye recommend you read it.
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