This is a phrase a client has heard over and over during his long career. Everytime he hears it, he scratches his head in confusion. The sentence is flung at him like an accusation. He is by no means a push over. He is a leader who genuinely seeks the opinions of his talent. He operates very efficiently with results. But he isn't a bull in a China shop. If things are delinquent or late, he doesn't get on the phone yelling at screaming every 5 minutes. He doesn't see the point in beating a dead horse just to prove he is in charge. He wondered if being nice is hurting his career or his opportunities for advancement because he isn't perceived as "hungry" or "urgent" or "aggressive".
Have you ever been accused of being too nice? Too happy? Too optimistic? What is does this really mean? What are people trying to say?
Is her niceness a constant reminder that you're not nice and therefore you want her stop? Or is he called too nice when you really mean he is too passive or lacks assertiveness?