Five Ways to Be More Authentic At Work

Ever feel like you have to check your personality at the door when you go to work? It seems being "professional" means we cannot have a sense of humor, show emotion, or uniqueness. We just have to be boring. Or do we? 

My personality is not boring. In fact, I struggle so often when writing this blog. I feel like I have to check my "personality" at the virtual door when selecting post topics. When I read over my writing most of the time, I feel like it is boring. Of course I try to offer a unique angle on the subject I choose but that doesn't seem to satisfy the inner me.

Bloggers will tell you that your blog is not about you but about what your audience wants or needs. "Give them something to come back too." So when I write, I ask myself if my readership really wants to hear what I am about to say. Does it have value that will bring you back again.

What's Your Story? 3 Reasons Leaders Should Tell Their Stories

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Everyone has a story about how one came to be in his or her profession. As leaders, our stories are apart of us and help shape our choices and influence our decisions. But have you ever told your team your story? Don't think you have a story worth telling? I challenge you to reconsider. Leaders should tell their stories to their teams in order to harness 3 benefits.


I was reading the latest issue of Inc Magazine about how several companies got their start. The writer, Adam Bluestein, suggests that every company should have a well crafted founder's story to help connect your business with investors, employees, and customers.

Sara Blakely cut the feet off a pair of pantyhose and came up with the idea for Spanx.


Jerry Murrell's mother told him one day that if he didn't study, he'd be flipping burgers. He never forgot that and when his sons expressed no interest in going to college, they opened Five Guys.

A Columbian aerobic's instructor forgot to bring his traditional aerobic's music to class one day. Instead of cancelling class, he made up dances to his favorite songs that he has on his personal device. That is how Zumba Fitness was born.

Every successful company has a founding story. When you are starting out, the only thing you have is your "passionate why"? Your "passionate why" is the reason you are pursuing what you are doing.

Even if you don't own a company, as a leader, you still need to have and craft your "passionate why" and then tell your people.

How to start writing your story

When crafting your story or your "passionate why" think about these question

• What life experience(s) has prepared to do what I am doing?
• Why am I in this line of work?
• What world changing impact do I hope to leave as result of my work?

3 Reason You Should Tell Your Story to Your People

Let's be honest. We all have had leaders who either are or seem to be unapproachable. We see them in passing but we never really get to know them. As a leader, you are in a perfect position to change that and telling your story or laying out your "passionate why" is an easy way for people to get to know you.

1. It Humanizes You.

As a kid, I remember the first time I saw my teacher, Ms. Dunston, at the movie theater. I was literally shocked. I thought:  She is my teacher. She doesn't have...a real life. I was so used to seeing my teacher in her role as teacher that it never occurred to me that she was a real person.

Leaders are people. But sometimes our titles can make our people think we are inaccessible. Telling your story of how you struggled, the mistakes you make, the fears you overcame, and the issues you are still working on erases the cloudiness and allows people to see the real you. This relaxes them to a degree that may be willing to take those risks you have been encouraging.

2. It Builds Trust. 

Your team is looking for ways to connect with you. They are looking for commonalities. When you tell your story, you are showing your team a vulnerable side of you. When you extend vulnerability, you are extending trust. When you extend trust, you are showing that you can be trusted. Think of it this way, the act of extending your hand to shake another's automatically prompts them to extend their hand to meet yours. As leaders, it is your responsibility to initiate trust. Telling your story is one way of doing that.

3. It Motivates. 

I fell in love with communication skills development because of mentor's founder's story. She was a stay at home mom whose daughter was asked to study competitive gymnastics. Not knowing what that meant, in detail, she began visiting the competitive gyms in her city to see how the kids were taught. What she saw broke her heart. She saw kids being belittled, embarrassed, and disrespected. She decided she wasn't going to submit her child to that relationally toxic environment. So she started a gym with the sole purpose to treat kids, and adults, with respect, value and worth. She used communication skills to do it and it changed an industry. After working in organizations, where the people are treated like disposable rags, I immediately understood my boss's motivation. and worked diligently to further the mission. Your story could do the same for your employees.

"...the origin story can serve as both a road map and moral compass. Keeping that story alive, keeping it true, and keeping it relevant--these are the challenges more mature businesses must contend with."  ~Adam Bluestein

Sharing your story is powerful yet simple tool you can use to encourage the performance and growth you want to see among your people. Wouldn't it be cool to get their stories too? With this information there are no limits on where an organization can go.

So what's your story?

I'll share mine in the next post.

Hire For Fit: #Blog4BIz Day 6

#Blog4Biz Day 6: If you could hire anyone, who would it be?

Today's challenge has me dreaming about the type of staff I would hire if money was no object. I have been reading a lot about hiring  for cultural fit as much as, or even over, hiring for qualification. Dan Schwabel, a Generation Y researcher and consultant gives a few reasons for it on his blog. Research shows that hiring for cultural fit is more important. This blog post shows that Generation Y prioritizes meaningful work over pay and what we could learn from that.

BRAVE in Passion

The Living BRAVE blog” does not officially relaunch until Aug 1, 2013. However during the month of July, I accepted the #Blog4Biz daily business blogging challenge. The challenge is designed to help business owners focus on certain aspects of blogging that will expand their skill, boost creativity, and focus their message. As I started writing these posts, I also realized that some of these posts might help you get to know me better before the “official” content appears August 1. If you want to join the challenge, click here

#Blog4Biz: Day 1 "Why did you start your business?"

I was invited to speak to a collegiate chapter of the Society of Human Resource Management (SHRM). After accepting the invitation, I really struggled to find a topic I was both relevant and entertaining. 

After tossing around, and might I add tossing out, several ideas I decided to be myself and talk about the one thing that lead to the start of my business in the first place: PASSION! 

Passion Discovered  

Passion has to be discovered before it can be unleashed. Your passion already exists! It is just waiting for you to be observant enough to notice it. It is just waiting for you to be brave enough to embrace it. 

In my talk, I told the unconventional ways I discovered my passion for interpersonal communication skills.  I love these skills because they transform people from mediocre communicators into bold, effective leaders.  

Passion Ignited

Truthfully, I used to be ashamed of my passion. In my talk, I recalled after discovering it, I devalued it by comparing it to others. One day, I had enough of trying to smother the burning flame of my newly discovered passion. It was time to unleash it.

On the homepage of my website  I define BRAVE. It is "possessing or exhibiting courage". It was time I possessed and showed my courage by embracing my passion. Your passion is unique. And how you choose to unleash it makes it even more unique to you.


When someone asks me to help navigate them through a sensitive conversation, my passion is ignited!

When I help someone discover a new approach to a recurring problem, my passion is ignited!

When I see the mental light bulbs come on during a training session, my passion is ignited!

Ignited passion is a powerful tool. A tool that when properly used can produce some dramatic results in the life of its handler. 

A client summed up what I do like this: 

"it was a collaborative effort in which you guided me through the challenges of  a sensitive communication issue and helped me create, organize, and perfect my 
strategy and delivery."  

...THAT ladies and gentleman is why BRAVE Communication LLC exists!